The holiday season, often associated with joy, family, and togetherness, can feel daunting when navigating the emotional and logistical challenges of a divorce during the holiday season.
The Tulsa family law firm attorneys of Fry & Elder understand the challenges a divorce during the holiday season can pose, but it can also be an opportunity to rediscover yourself and redefine what this season means. With some intention and self-compassion, you can turn this season into an opportunity for growth and renewal.
Remember, healing takes time — and this season is just one chapter in your story. Below are some strategies to help you or a loved one maneuver through the potential obstacles of a holiday divorce.
Embrace Your Emotions
Divorce is a significant life transition, and it’s normal to feel a range of emotions—grief, anger, loneliness, or even relief. Instead of pushing those feelings aside, acknowledge them. Journaling, meditating, or confiding in a trusted friend can help you process your emotions and find clarity. Remember, it’s okay not to feel “holly jolly” all the time.
Redefine Your Traditions
The holidays may look different now, and that’s okay. Instead of dwelling on what’s lost, focus on creating new traditions. This could mean hosting a small gathering with friends, volunteering at a local charity, or starting a new activity like baking, hiking, or crafting. Redefining the season can help you take ownership of your happiness.
Put Children First (If You Have Them)
If you share children with your ex-partner, prioritize their well-being. Keep communication respectful and work together to create a holiday schedule that allows the kids to enjoy time with both parents. Reassure them that the holidays can still be special, even if they look different. Engage them in holiday planning to give them a sense of stability and excitement.
Practice Self-Care
Amid the hustle of the season, take time to care for yourself. This could be as simple as taking a long walk, indulging in a favorite book, or spending time on a hobby. If the holiday blues hit hard, don’t hesitate to reach out to a therapist or join a support group to navigate the emotional terrain.
Manage Expectations
The holidays can feel heavy with societal and personal expectations. Give yourself permission to simplify. If decorating, shopping, or socializing feels overwhelming, scale back. Focus on what feels meaningful to you rather than what you think you “should” be doing.
Surround Yourself with Support
Lean on your support network of friends, family, or community groups. Spending time with loved ones who uplift and understand you can make the season less lonely. If your usual circle is unavailable, consider connecting with others through events, meetups, or volunteer opportunities.
Find Gratitude Amid Change
It might be challenging to focus on the positive during such a transformative time, but practicing gratitude can shift your perspective. Reflect on the aspects of your life you’re thankful for, whether it’s your health, a supportive friend, or even the freedom to build a new future.
Give Back
Volunteering is a powerful way to find purpose and perspective during difficult times. Helping others, whether by donating gifts, serving meals, or participating in community events, can remind you of the good in the world and bring a sense of fulfillment.
Look Ahead
While the holidays can magnify the pain of divorce, they’re also a temporary season. Use this time to reflect on what you want for your future. Set goals for the new year and focus on small, achievable steps to move toward healing and growth.
Whether it’s your first-holiday post-divorce or you’re still adjusting to the changes, this time of year can be overwhelming. However, with some intention and self-compassion, you can turn this season into an opportunity for growth and renewal.
Divorce during the holidays is undoubtedly challenging, but it can also be an opportunity to rediscover yourself and redefine what this season means to you. By prioritizing your well-being, embracing change, and focusing on what truly matters, you can create a holiday experience filled with resilience and hope. Remember, healing takes time—and this season is just one chapter in your story.
Experience the Fry & Elder Difference
When it comes to family law in Tulsa and Oklahoma, it is hard for any firm to match Fry & Elder’s history and accomplishments in divorce, child custody, and child support issues that might surface.
For nearly 100 years, Fry & Elder has embodied Oklahoma family law excellence since first opening its doors in 1932. The firm features an elite team of experienced attorneys more than well versed and knowledgeable in all family law issues. The firm has been named to the U.S. News & World Report’s Best Law Firms List every year since 2014.
Robert G “Hap” Fry Jr. is a Fellow of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers and a past president of the Oklahoma Chapter and has been named to the esteemed The Best Lawyers in America® directory for 15 consecutive years
Firm attorneys Simon Harwood, James Morton, Preston Bennett, Zach Mortazavi, Brian Jackson, Grayson Glover are also well versed in how to navigate the challenges of a divorce during the holiday season.
Contact Fry & Elder today to set up a personal consultation with an experienced Tulsa family law attorney.