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Jan 13

Why A Post New Year’s Divorce May Be Beneficial

A New Year can lead to new hope and new beginnings. This notion holds particularly true for people who have been involved in a tumultuous relationship.

Post New Year's Divorce

Compromise and a re-commitment of the relationship would be ideal in a perfect world. But as 2020 continually reinforced, life is not always ideal. Sometimes a permanent break is needed in which case divorce becomes a viable option.

Although January has been dubbed by many to be “Divorce Season” or “Divorce Month,” there is some merit to proceeding with the decision to move on and get a post New Year’s divorce from your spouse.

A Divorce can Provide a Fresh Start to New Year

The New Year provides people the opportunity to make resolutions – being a happier and better version of oneself is certainly one of best decisions one can make.

If you have continually been unhappy in your marriage, perhaps the best way to find happiness and solace within yourself may mean beginning the New Year with a blank slate. There is no shame in removing yourself from dysfunctional and unfulfilling marriage, particularly if you have been subject to narcissistic or abusive behavior.

A Post New Year’s Divorce Provides Some Financial and Emotional Incentives

There is no denying the fact that there is a cost associated with divorce – both emotionally and financially. The burden of the latter can often be softened by waiting until after the New Year to file.

Waiting until after the New Year to file for a divorce provides some financial incentives, particularly tax benefits. Not only will waiting until after the New Year allow you to avoid interferences with joint tax filings from the previous year, it also enables you the opportunity to file jointly one last time.

Emotionally, waiting until January or soon thereafter to file for a divorce also allows you the opportunity to get through what typically is an already stressful-holiday season. This especially holds true when children are involved.

Above all, waiting until the New Year or shortly thereafter allows one to make the decision of getting a divorce with a clear head and clean slate.

Consult with an Experienced Team of Tulsa Divorce Lawyers

Divorce is complicated and life-changing. The idea of ending a relationship which was supposed to be forever is both challenging and emotional and why you should not go through the process alone.

For over 50 years, the name Fry & Elder has been synonymous with Oklahoma family law excellence. The firm’s team of family law attorneys not only are some of most skilled and experienced in the Tulsa area, they are well-versed in managing divorces on all parts of the conflict spectrum. These include everything from simple dissolutions to high-conflict divorces.

Regardless of the scenario, Fry & Elder’s knowledgeable and talented team of attorneys will meticulously analyze your case and develop unique solutions tailored to fit your individual needs.

Contact Fry & Elder today to set up a personal consultation.

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Jan 6

Dealing with Borderline Personality Disorders in Family Court

With over 50 years of experience practicing family law in various Northeastern Oklahoma courtrooms, Robert G “Hap” Fry Jr. has long been considered the industry “gold standard” of Tulsa family law excellence.

Personality Disorders

So when the iconic Tulsa family law attorney was invited to participate in the Annual Family Law CLE Day put on by the Tulsa County Bar Association (TCBA) this past December, it was not at all surprising that Fry’s presentation was well attended by some of the bigger names in the Tulsa legal community.

“I thought it went great,” Fry said. “The TCBA always does such a great job with these events and they were very receptive to me presenting and of my ideas for the presentation.”

Fry not only displayed is technical prowess – using Zoom and a PowerPoint – to broadcast his presentation, the highly-regarded attorney also used the presentation as opportunity to tackle a very serious issue in Oklahoma family law courts: Dealing with Borderline Personality Disorders in Family Court.

“I think it is a very serious issue,” Fry said. “If your client shows signs or has a history of being mentally unstable, they are likely going to be very difficult to work with moving forward and could end up being their own worst enemy in a pending divorce or child custody case.

“While I cannot legally determine whether or not a someone has a personality disorder, I think I can recognize instability or potential problems down the road when I meet with them.”

Fry said dealing with those suffering from personality disorders is comparable to divorcing someone who is a narcissist.

During his CLE presentation, Fry told participants that he evaluates a variety of verbal and non-verbal cues when he consults with prospective clients. Some of these include:

  • Their capacity to focus
  • Their ability to make eye contact
  • If they are really listening to what I say
  • Are they too easily led?
  • Are they impossible to lead?
  • Are there drug issues: marijuana moving up to meth and opioids as a history?
  • Was there treatment?
  • Are they capable of accepting responsibility for their own actions or are they, i.e. blaming their spouse, their spouse’s parents, their parents, mediator, parenting coordinator, counselor, their own attorney, or the other attorney?

There are other questions that Fry asks and things he discusses during an initial consultation with a prospective client, but Fry said perhaps the two biggest takeaways a potential client needs to walkaway knowing is that he or she needs to willingly accept responsibility for some of his or her actions. The other is that presently he or she is their ex-spouse’s best witness, which is what will need to change.

Fry closed out the CLE presentation by stating that the final thing he has a potential client do before signing a contract which is anonymously answer 15 True/False questions from a 488-question based MMPI-2.

“If they answer false to five or more of those, they need to be aware that they have some personality issues,” Fry said. “They can get better, but they need to recognize some of their issues and begin to seriously work at changing their behavior.”

Contact Fry & Elder today to set up a personal consultation with Fry.

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Oct 11

Five Fry & Elder Trial Lawyers Honored as Oklahoma Super Lawyers

The accolades continue to roll in for Fry & Elder trial lawyers. Less than two months after firm attorneys Robert G “Hap” Fry Jr. and M. Shane Henry were named to the prestigious Best Lawyers® 2018 listings another leading legal publication, Super Lawyers®, rolled out its list of this year’s honorees. As expected, several Fry & Elder trial lawyers were spotlighted as Oklahoma Super Lawyers, highlighted by Fry Jr. being again selected as a Super Lawyer for his prowess in family law.

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The decorated attorney, considered by many to be the best Tulsa divorce attorney, has been tabbed a Super Lawyer every year by the publication since it began spotlighting attorneys in 2007.

“It’s an incredible honor,” Fry Jr. said. “Super Lawyers is a very respected publication in the legal industry. These awards and honors mean a lot and are never taken for granted.”

All total, Fry & Elder had five attorneys recognized as Oklahoma Super Lawyers for 2017.

Also joining Fry Jr. were Super Lawyers Rising Stars selections Henry (2015-2017), Aaron D. Bundy (2013-2017), T. Luke Barteaux (2014-2017) and Fry & Elder Oklahoma City lead attorney Allyson Dow (2015-2017).

For Barteaux, the Oklahoma Super Lawyers’ accolade provides further validation that 2017 has indeed been a banner year for the trial attorney. In May, Barteaux became the first Fry & Elder attorney to be sworn in as a judge when he was appointed and confirmed as Cherokee Nation District Judge.

“It’s been a busy, but great year,” Barteaux said. “It’s special to be able to share this honor with so many other great attorneys we have here at Fry & Elder. We promote a team-like atmosphere here at this firm, and though these are individual honors, I believe they reinforce that team-like atmosphere and how we all feed off one another to become better attorneys and advocates for our clients.”

 

One of the things that distinguishes Super Lawyers from other legal publications is its revered selection process. Only the best 5 percent of attorneys in a specific practice area are selected as Super Lawyers, while 2.5 percent of lawyers in a given practice area are chosen as Rising Stars.

The Super Lawyers website says the selection process is as follows:

“Super Lawyers selects attorneys using a patented multiphase selection process. Peer nominations and evaluations are combined with independent research. Each candidate is evaluated on 12 indicators of peer recognition and professional achievement.

“Selections are made on an annual, state-by-state basis. The objective is to create a credible, comprehensive and diverse listing of outstanding attorneys that can be used as a resource for attorneys and consumers searching for legal counsel. Since Super Lawyers is intended to be used as an aid in selecting a lawyer, we limit the lawyer ratings to those who can be hired and retained by the public, i.e., lawyers in private practice and Legal Aid attorneys.”

The awards and accolades don’t figure to stop for the prestigious Oklahoma law firm. The U.S. News & World Report is set to reveal its highly-anticipated Best Law Firms List for 2018 on Nov. 1 and Fry & Elder is vying to be on it for a fifth consecutive year.

The Oklahoma Bar Association also will be holding its Annual Meeting for 2017 on Nov. 1-3 and Fry & Elder again figures to be well represented.

Contact Fry & Elder Tulsa today to set up a consultation with one of our Oklahoma Super Lawyers.

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