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Jan 6

Dealing with Borderline Personality Disorders in Family Court

With over 50 years of experience practicing family law in various Northeastern Oklahoma courtrooms, Robert G “Hap” Fry Jr. has long been considered the industry “gold standard” of Tulsa family law excellence.

Personality Disorders

So when the iconic Tulsa family law attorney was invited to participate in the Annual Family Law CLE Day put on by the Tulsa County Bar Association (TCBA) this past December, it was not at all surprising that Fry’s presentation was well attended by some of the bigger names in the Tulsa legal community.

“I thought it went great,” Fry said. “The TCBA always does such a great job with these events and they were very receptive to me presenting and of my ideas for the presentation.”

Fry not only displayed is technical prowess – using Zoom and a PowerPoint – to broadcast his presentation, the highly-regarded attorney also used the presentation as opportunity to tackle a very serious issue in Oklahoma family law courts: Dealing with Borderline Personality Disorders in Family Court.

“I think it is a very serious issue,” Fry said. “If your client shows signs or has a history of being mentally unstable, they are likely going to be very difficult to work with moving forward and could end up being their own worst enemy in a pending divorce or child custody case.

“While I cannot legally determine whether or not a someone has a personality disorder, I think I can recognize instability or potential problems down the road when I meet with them.”

Fry said dealing with those suffering from personality disorders is comparable to divorcing someone who is a narcissist.

During his CLE presentation, Fry told participants that he evaluates a variety of verbal and non-verbal cues when he consults with prospective clients. Some of these include:

  • Their capacity to focus
  • Their ability to make eye contact
  • If they are really listening to what I say
  • Are they too easily led?
  • Are they impossible to lead?
  • Are there drug issues: marijuana moving up to meth and opioids as a history?
  • Was there treatment?
  • Are they capable of accepting responsibility for their own actions or are they, i.e. blaming their spouse, their spouse’s parents, their parents, mediator, parenting coordinator, counselor, their own attorney, or the other attorney?

There are other questions that Fry asks and things he discusses during an initial consultation with a prospective client, but Fry said perhaps the two biggest takeaways a potential client needs to walkaway knowing is that he or she needs to willingly accept responsibility for some of his or her actions. The other is that presently he or she is their ex-spouse’s best witness, which is what will need to change.

Fry closed out the CLE presentation by stating that the final thing he has a potential client do before signing a contract which is anonymously answer 15 True/False questions from a 488-question based MMPI-2.

“If they answer false to five or more of those, they need to be aware that they have some personality issues,” Fry said. “They can get better, but they need to recognize some of their issues and begin to seriously work at changing their behavior.”

Contact Fry & Elder today to set up a personal consultation with Fry.

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Aug 20

Hallmark of Consistency: Fry Selected Again by Best Lawyers®

No one will say that 2020 has gone as planned. Yet, as surprising, unsettling and disturbing as the year has become, there are a few consistencies which remain intact. Best Lawyers® announced its 2021 listings for its annual directory Aug. 20, and Robert G “Hap” Fry Jr. was again selected for inclusion.

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It should come as no surprise.

The upcoming year will mark the 11th consecutive year Fry has been selected, yet the acclaimed attorney’s run of success dates much further back.

Fry has been synonymous with Tulsa family law excellence for over 50 years during what has been a remarkable legal career at Fry & Elder.

“He never ceases to amaze me,” longtime friend and firm partner James R. Elder said. “He’s supposed to be slowing down a little, but he has not. This year has been one of his best years, especially when you consider all the out-of-control things which have happened in 2020. Most people seek to avoid stress; he thrives on it.”

The year has certainly been one of the most documented for Fry both personally and professionally.

The iconic Tulsa attorney was the subject of four separate feature stories by three leading Tulsa media publications. The below stories spotlighted everything from Fry’s celebrity dog Badger to his immediate family to his unique charitable hobby and, of course, his nationally recognized law firm.

  • TulsaPeople Magazine
  • People of Midtown Magazine
  • Tulsa World
  • People of Midtown Magazine

“It’s been a very interesting and challenging year on a variety of fronts for everyone, and it’s not over yet,” Fry said. “I’m not sure I have any profound insight on how to handle things, but I try my best to look at each day with a positive outlook. Some days are easier than others, but work has always been a great outlet for me. I feel very comfortable and at home working on legal issues and consulting with clients and attorneys.”

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Fry’s passion for his work has been well documented and has not gone unnoticed for some time. He was proactive in embracing and advancing the changes in child support guidelines in the 1980s, which drew national attention.

He was interviewed on CBS The Early Show in a divorce series entitled, “What About the Kids?”

Still, that Fry has been listed by The Best Lawyers in America© every year since 2011 is no small feat. The publication is widely viewed as the oldest and most respected peer-review publication in the legal profession.

Much of this has to do with the rigorous selection process Best Lawyers® employs. Lawyers are not permitted to pay any fee to participate in or be recognized by Best Lawyers. As the website states:

“Recognition by Best Lawyers® is based entirely on peer review. Our methodology is designed to capture, as accurately as possible, the consensus opinion of leading lawyers about the professional abilities of their colleagues within the same geographical area and legal practice area.

“Best Lawyers employs a sophisticated, conscientious, rational, and transparent survey process designed to elicit meaningful and substantive evaluations of the quality of legal services. Our belief has always been that the quality of a peer-review survey is directly related to the quality of the voters.”

Even though the selection marks 11 years and counting for the well-known Tulsa family law attorney, Fry remains very thankful for honors such as these and doesn’t take anything for granted, particularly in a year such as 2020.

“It’s a tremendous honor for me to be recognized by peers,” Fry said. “Best Lawyers® has such a good reputation in our legal industry, and deservedly so. They’ve done an excellent job of reporting on and evaluating our industry trends over the years.”

Contact Fry & Elder today to set up a personal consultation with a dedicated and experienced Tulsa family law attorney.

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Oct 11

Five Fry & Elder Trial Lawyers Honored as Oklahoma Super Lawyers

The accolades continue to roll in for Fry & Elder trial lawyers. Less than two months after firm attorneys Robert G “Hap” Fry Jr. and M. Shane Henry were named to the prestigious Best Lawyers® 2018 listings another leading legal publication, Super Lawyers®, rolled out its list of this year’s honorees. As expected, several Fry & Elder trial lawyers were spotlighted as Oklahoma Super Lawyers, highlighted by Fry Jr. being again selected as a Super Lawyer for his prowess in family law.

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The decorated attorney, considered by many to be the best Tulsa divorce attorney, has been tabbed a Super Lawyer every year by the publication since it began spotlighting attorneys in 2007.

“It’s an incredible honor,” Fry Jr. said. “Super Lawyers is a very respected publication in the legal industry. These awards and honors mean a lot and are never taken for granted.”

All total, Fry & Elder had five attorneys recognized as Oklahoma Super Lawyers for 2017.

Also joining Fry Jr. were Super Lawyers Rising Stars selections Henry (2015-2017), Aaron D. Bundy (2013-2017), T. Luke Barteaux (2014-2017) and Fry & Elder Oklahoma City lead attorney Allyson Dow (2015-2017).

For Barteaux, the Oklahoma Super Lawyers’ accolade provides further validation that 2017 has indeed been a banner year for the trial attorney. In May, Barteaux became the first Fry & Elder attorney to be sworn in as a judge when he was appointed and confirmed as Cherokee Nation District Judge.

“It’s been a busy, but great year,” Barteaux said. “It’s special to be able to share this honor with so many other great attorneys we have here at Fry & Elder. We promote a team-like atmosphere here at this firm, and though these are individual honors, I believe they reinforce that team-like atmosphere and how we all feed off one another to become better attorneys and advocates for our clients.”

 

One of the things that distinguishes Super Lawyers from other legal publications is its revered selection process. Only the best 5 percent of attorneys in a specific practice area are selected as Super Lawyers, while 2.5 percent of lawyers in a given practice area are chosen as Rising Stars.

The Super Lawyers website says the selection process is as follows:

“Super Lawyers selects attorneys using a patented multiphase selection process. Peer nominations and evaluations are combined with independent research. Each candidate is evaluated on 12 indicators of peer recognition and professional achievement.

“Selections are made on an annual, state-by-state basis. The objective is to create a credible, comprehensive and diverse listing of outstanding attorneys that can be used as a resource for attorneys and consumers searching for legal counsel. Since Super Lawyers is intended to be used as an aid in selecting a lawyer, we limit the lawyer ratings to those who can be hired and retained by the public, i.e., lawyers in private practice and Legal Aid attorneys.”

The awards and accolades don’t figure to stop for the prestigious Oklahoma law firm. The U.S. News & World Report is set to reveal its highly-anticipated Best Law Firms List for 2018 on Nov. 1 and Fry & Elder is vying to be on it for a fifth consecutive year.

The Oklahoma Bar Association also will be holding its Annual Meeting for 2017 on Nov. 1-3 and Fry & Elder again figures to be well represented.

Contact Fry & Elder Tulsa today to set up a consultation with one of our Oklahoma Super Lawyers.

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