The New Year culminates the beginning of many things. That might mean a divorce or the ending of a marriage for some. The family law attorneys at Fry & Elder empathize with those going through a divorce and are fully aware of the challenges that often come with a marriage ending during any time. Going through a divorce can be physically, psychologically, and financially draining, but there also is life after divorce. For many, it is a time reset one’s life and priorities. Fry & Elder offers the following strategies to restart your life after divorce.
Because going through a divorce can be such an emotional time, it’s essential that you take care of yourself through it. Self-care comes in many forms, but it boils down to honoring your physical and emotional needs.
This might mean engaging in more physical activity or seeking counseling services. If you want to recover as soon as possible, it is vitally important that you prioritize yourself and engage in self-care and remain physically and emotionally active.
Seek Out Family and Friends to Lean On
When you need someone talk to, who is going to support you more than your family and friends? They know you best and also the relationship that you recently came out of. Embrace that they care about you and your happiness.
Seeking support or asking for help is not a sign of weakness and you’ll probably find that those closest to you are eager to help you out however they can, even if that means just providing practical advice or a sympathetic ear.
Rediscover What Makes You Happy
Many people sacrifice some (or all) of their identities to merge with their partner. This isn’t usually intentional, but it can leave people feeling dismantled in the midst of a divorce.
However, this can be a profound time for self-discovery. What makes you feel happy? What makes you feel most alive? What are the things you used to enjoy doing before you were married? Are there any hobbies or interests you gave up because your spouse didn’t care to do them? Or is there anything new you would you like to try?
A big part of restarting your life after divorce involves rediscovering what your life was like before your marriage and also discovering what your life can be following divorce.
Create a New Financial Plan
Even if you paid the bills while you were married, get up to speed on money matters – fast.
Regaining or reinforcing that you are financially independent is an important step in not only moving on from a divorce but also enhancing your self-esteem. There are adult education course offered in personal finance management and investment clubs that are available to join.
Know That You Are Not Alone
Although divorce is an incredibly difficult experience, you are not alone. Many others have walked through your path and have come out better and stronger because of it.
The attorneys and legal personnel at Fry & Elder want you to remember to care for yourself and embracing your new path in life can help you thrive in this next chapter.