For many, the holidays are an eagerly anticipated time of the year. They are a great time for families to come together to celebrate one another, their faith and the upcoming New Year. While this is the case for many, it’s not for some people out there, particularly for those who have recently gone through a Tulsa divorce and will have to coordinate child custody during the holiday season for the first time. The Tulsa divorce lawyers of Fry & Elder recognize this and wish to help provide you with a few Do’s and Don’ts to help your through this holiday season.
Do take some time to discuss the holidays with your children
Once the holiday schedule has been finalized between your ex-spouse and you, talk to your children about where they will be when and on which day. Quite often, children benefit from knowing what their schedule will be like in advance so that they can have a better understanding of how the holidays will work.
Do try and be accommodating and understanding with your ex-spouse
While it is important to review and follow your custody order, something might come up last minute that requires a little flexibility on you part. If it is your ex that needs you to be a little more flexible, it is important that you keep in mind that one day you might need the favor returned. Ultimately, you need to remember your children and how memorable the holidays are to them. The smoother things go, the better for all parties.
Don’t be scared of trying something new out this holiday season
True, tradition plays a big role in how a family celebrates the holidays, but there is nothing wrong with incorporating something new this year. This might entail a special Christmas outing (looking at lights, bowling or a movie) or trying out a new dish or recipe. Maybe this Christmas isn’t your year to have the children so you assign a special Christmas day for them and you this year.
Don’t place an overwhelming importance on having the “actual” holiday
Of course, it would be great to have you children wake up on your home Christmas morning, but it does not make or break the holiday or the time you will be spending together. Just like they are for you, the holidays are about much more than the actual. There are not many children out there who will have any problems opening presents on two separate occasions this Christmas.
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If you are having a child custody issue this holiday season or any other time of the year, don’t hesitate to contact the Tulsa divorce lawyers at Fry & Elder. For over 40 years, our firm has been identified as a premier family law firm in Tulsa and throughout the United States.
The U.S. News & World Report has put Fry & Elder on its exclusive list of Best Law Firms from 2014-2016. Tulsa divorce lawyer Robert G “Hap” Fry was honored as the Lawyer of the Year for Family Law in Tulsa for 2016 by Best Lawyers® and has been selected as an Oklahoma Super Lawyer® every year since 2007 Fellow firm and Tulsa divorce lawyers M. Shane Henry, T. Luke Barteaux and Aaron D. Bundy have each been selected as Super Lawyers® Rising Stars™
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