Whether you are divorced or are in the process of getting a divorce, the holidays can often be rough for dads, and Father’s Day is no exception. With the holiday arriving this weekend, the Tulsa child custody and divorce attorneys at Fry & Elder empathize with the dads out there and would like to offer a few tips to help you get through the day no matter what your situation will be this Father’s Day – kids the whole day, part of the day or not at all.
Have a Positive Attitude
This may sound easy and cheesy all at once, but so much of making it through any trying situation is achieved by having a positive attitude. Try and reflect on what you do have, not what you don’t have. Chances are, there are a lot of other people out there who would like to switch positions with you. If you do have the opportunity to spend part of the day or the entire day with your children, they generally will emulate the attitude you present.
Shift Some of the Attention Off of You and onto Some of the Other Fathers Out There
What better way to spend Father’s Day than with your own dad? While this might not be possible for some dads out there, if your dad has passed on, you could begin the day by writing a letter to him or doing something that you both enjoyed doing together. If you have brothers, uncles or any good friends out there who are dads, take a minute to wish them a happy Father’s Day.
Do Something Nice for Yourself
Remember, this is your day so there’s no reason not to treat yourself right. This might mean splurging on that grill or set of golf clubs you’ve been eyeing for a while or it might mean taking part of the day to do something you enjoy – like playing golf or going fishing.
Have a Plan for the Day
This is particularly important if you will be spending any amount of time with your children this Father’s Day. Think of some things to do together that would be fun. This might mean taking a bike ride and having a picnic, playing catch or going swimming and then having a barbecue. No matter what you end up deciding on, your kids and you will enjoy the time together and make some memories together along the way. If you are unable to see your kids then try and schedule a time to Skype of FaceTime with them and make plans to keep yourself busy. This might mean hanging out with some friends or going on weekend / daylong getaway.
Experience the Fry & Elder Difference
We wish all the dads out there divorced, separated or not a happy Father’s Day. Should something, however, arise over the weekend that causes you to question your custodial position, we encourage you to contact Fry & Elder immediately and set up a personal consultation. Our team of Tulsa child custody and divorce attorneys is among the most decorated in the state.
Robert G “Hap” Fry Jr. was selected as the Lawyer of the Year for Family Law in Tulsa for 2016 by Best Lawyers® and is also one of only 19 Oklahoma attorneys to be a Fellow of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers.
Shane Henry, Aaron D. Bundy and James R. Elder, along with Fry, have each garnered the coveted AV® Preeminent Peer Review Rating by Martindale-Hubbell®, while T. Luke Barteaux has been selected as a Super Lawyers® Rising Star™.
Fry & Elder’s Lorena Rivas is an accomplished Oklahoma immigration law attorney, while Kristen Bernhardt once won a judgement in excess of $10 million from Coca-Cola. Fellow firm attorney Katie Egan is licensed to practice in three different states and Melissa Fell rounds out a talented team of Tulsa child custody and divorce attorneys that have helped Fry & Elder make the U.S. News & World Report’s elite list of Best Law Firms from 2014-2016.