Contrary to popular belief, the holidays aren’t the “most wonderful time of the year” for everyone. While Thanksgiving, Hanukkah Christmas and New Year’s serve as rallying points and reasons for many families and friends to celebrate, for those going through a holiday divorce, the holidays might not be embraced with the same delight as they previously were. Feelings of depression, anger, anxiety and regret may set in or intensify during the holiday season.
It’s understandable.
Fry & Elder’s accomplished and decorated team of Tulsa divorce lawyers realize how difficult going through a holiday divorce can be for many people. The holidays are stressful enough for many without having to go through a divorce.
Though there is no magical formula to transform oneself into the life of the holiday party, there are numerous coping mechanisms one can incorporate to better navigate through the holiday season and a holiday divorce.
TIP 1: Put the Focus on Others
Whether you are going through a divorce, grieving the loss of someone close to you or are dealing with a challenging personal matter, putting the focus on others is always a good policy to implement especially if you have children. Even if you don’t think you are capable of achieving this type of attitude at the present time, you very well could surprise yourself and any attempt to do so will be warmly received and respected by others.
One thing to remember, particularly during the holiday season, is to be grateful for what you have and not what you don’t have at the moment. Remember that the holidays are about spreading cheer and being thankful.
TIP 2: Think of New Beginnings Not of Things Ending
You don’t have to choose to dwell on the ending of a relationship with divorce. You can look at it as the start of a new beginning for you. Incorporating new traditions into the holiday season is a great way to begin enacting this mindset. New traditions could include volunteering at a shelter or bringing dinner to someone else in need. Taking up a new hobby or joining a gym are also good ways to embrace a new start. If you have children, the holiday season is in ideal time to begin anew.
TIP 3: Don’t Deny Yourself Happiness
No, going through a holiday divorce might not be ideal, but it is an opportunity for you to distance yourself from a toxic relationship and reclaim yourself which is worth its weight in gold. Above all, don’t lose sight of that this holiday season.
Why Experience the Fry & Elder Difference?
For nearly 50 years, Fry & Elder has been identified as a premier and elite Oklahoma family law firm. Robert G “Hap” Fry Jr. is one of only 19 attorneys in Oklahoma to be a Fellow of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers and also has been named Lawyer of the Year for Family Law in Tulsa for 2016 by Best Lawyers®.
Fellow Fry & Elder partner M. Shane Henry was named the 2016 Oklahoma Family Law Attorney of the Year by the Oklahoma Bar Association Family Law Section. Fry and Henry are both listed by Best Lawyers® for their excellence in family law for 2018. The two distinguished divorce attorneys have helped Fry & Elder be named to the prestigious U.S. News & World Report’s Best Law Firms List from 2014-2018.
The firm’s vaunted lineup of attorneys also includes:
- Five attorneys recognized by Super Lawyers®
- Four attorneys AV® Preeminent Peer Review Rated by Martindale-Hubbell®
- Three of the past four Oklahoma Bar Association Family Law Section Chairs
- A Cherokee Nation District Court Judge
- The 2017 OBA Earl Sneed Award Recipients
If you or someone you care about are going through a holiday divorce and are in need of legal assistance, contact Fry & Elder Tulsa or Fry & Elder Oklahoma City today to set up a personal consultation with a proven Oklahoma divorce lawyer.